Hey everyone~ On My Mark posts are supposed to be on Sundays, but I’m retiring a bit from my get-it-done habits.
While we’re on the subject of INFJs – my schedules for anything, including posts for the blog, are usually chiseled in my head like this:
But I’ve been chilling quite a bit with posting blog posts, with running, with carrying out my plans of intent and with life in general. Although I still can’t survive a day without some sort of a plan of execution, I’m stretching out a bit more just so me and my company at the moment will ease up the tension – that “perfect” person I normally spend at least 2 hours to prepare mentally after I know who or what I’ll be expecting. Yeap, I was that obsessive about pleasing others and performing the actions the ideal self in my head would perform.
The key word there is “perform”. What a big mistake and a wasteful way to live.
Although we always want to grow and find ways to become a better person, sometimes, certain people have made it a habit to take every undesired happenstance to their own blame, which is great because you don’t want to point fingers at others and expand the mess you’ve already gotten yourself into. But the group of people I find strange, even a mystery to themselves, is what the Myers-Briggs type theory call theIntroverted Intuitive Feeler Judger, otherwise known as the INFJs. Take a 5-minute test on the link I provided here to find out your personality type, or take the official test here for a more comprehensive report on thy soul.
The fellow INFJ I quoted from last week made it very clear about the INFJ’s core in a very personal statement, which I couldn’t agree more and just have to feel unapologetically strong about:
INFJs are known perfectionists. We are not inclined to settle, nor are we inclined to accept the status quo. If something fails to meet our standards, we quickly lose interest or become annoyed. Our Se (Extroverted Sensing) allows us to quickly and accurately assess our surroundings (immediate or societal), and our Ni (Introverted Intuition) grants us an immediate understanding. Flaws in our external world are always readily apparent to us. For this reason, we are largely immune to trends. INFJs opt, instead, for more classic styles and artistic movements, or more cerebral ones. Our fashion tends to be simpler, as our Fe (Extroverted Feeling) and Se make us feel less attached to our physical selves than other type. An exception would be when we are trying to make a statement with our appearance, like in the case of INFJ shock-rocker Marilyn Manson (a more extreme example, but you get the idea). However, those same traits that draw us out of our physical selves make us want to invest in and enjoy the world around us. We are repelled by all the flash-in-the-pan entertainment we encounter on a daily basis, though.
The fact of the matter is that our heightened discernment leaves no place for the opinions of others. We know what we like, and popularity doesn’t factor into what we enjoy. INFJs walk past the Twilight displays at their local bookstore and head for either the classics or the most complicated modern fiction they can find. A lot of people are going to attend the Three Days Grace show at the local arena, but their INFJ friends are headed to a small club to catch any manner of diverse acts, from Zoe Keating to The Dillinger Escape Plan.
It’s not that we eschew things because of their popularity, but rather that the plot elements characters, chord changes, textures, rhythms, etc., that are employed to draw in the widest audience are just glaringly transparent to us. We don’t want to be pandered to, we want to be challenged. We don’t want the familiar, we want the novel. We want to be moved, and our Fe brings us wider emotional ranges than what these shallow forms of entertainment can offer, so we dismiss them. We are not normally dismissive of other people that enjoy such things, though, because our Fe allows us to understand their point of view. We are not elitists. We enjoy things the same way other types do, just different things for different reasons.
—Remember, when you doubt yourself, that it’s only because you can see the rest of the world more clearly than you can see yourself. It’s an advantage. Use it with confidence, but never in a way that would make others feel inferior. Draw strength from your discerning nature.
Wikipedia broke the cognitive functions of the INFJ personality down into the following order:
Dominant: Introverted intuition (Ni)
Attracted to symbolic actions or devices, Ni synthesizes seeming paradoxes to create the previously unimagined. These realizations come with a certainty that demands action to fulfill a new vision of the future, solutions that may include complex systems or universal truths.
Auxiliary: Extroverted feeling (Fe)
Fe seeks social connections and creates harmonious interactions through polite, considerate, and appropriate behavior. Fe responds to the explicit (and implicit) wants of others, and may even create an internal conflict between the subject’s own needs and the desire to meet the needs of others.
Tertiary: Introverted thinking (Ti)
Ti seeks precision, such as the exact word to express an idea. Ti notices the minute distinctions that define the essence of things, then analyzes and classifies them. Ti examines all sides of an issue, looking to solve problems while minimizing effort and risk. It uses models to root out logical inconsistency.
Inferior: Extroverted sensing (Se)
Se focuses on the experiences and sensations of the immediate, physical world. With an acute awareness of the present surroundings, it brings relevant facts and details to the forefront and may lead to spontaneous action.
Famous INFJs (some personalities listed are surprising) include Nelson Mandela, Al Pacino, Cate Blanchett, Evangeline Lilly, Mother Teresa, Gandhi, Plato, and Jesus himself. I know, I know – how much do you look like a speck of dust when you’re next to these INFJs, right?
Speaking as a perfectionist, I found that nice mix between conforming to others’ expectations and being in a natural state while reminding yourself that you’re not omnipotent, omnipresent, or omniscient – and will never be. (And by the by, I read a really interesting article by Psychology Today blogger, Susan Biali, M.D., on the topic, which has been helpful for gaining an understanding about our weird nature to question our identity every time we’re trying to meet every imaginable means so as to get to the perfect end).
For me, the reminding part is running. It helps establish a good ground the balancing acts you have to put on in life if you habitually get physical. When a moving body transcends the restless mind, the mind is able to follow and rest. It does work both ways.
Seeing people from all walks of life smiling even as they huff and puff will get you psyched instantly. Don’t believe me? It’s the easiest way to motivate yourself to get to your end, because, well, every one of us has our own Goliath that we have to overcome. Whatever yours looks like, just check out the public galleries of Jakarta Marathon 2013 here and here, which are taken by the good people from Unilever and Rexona respectively. I bet you’ll be lacing up your shoes after that.
October 6, 2013: Jakarta R.A.C.E. 2013 (5k + 10k) October 6, 2013: Mandiri Run (5k + 10k) October 13, 2013: ZINC Vertical Running (56 floors of Menara BCA) October 13, 2013: Allianz Heart Run 2013 (5k + 10k)
- October 27, 2013: Jakarta Marathon 2013 (5k + 10k + 13.1 mi + 26.2 mi)
November 3, 2013: the ongoing S4 Run Series (5k + 10k)
- November 24, 2013: Standard Chartered Half-Marathon Indonesia 2013 (10k + 13.1 mi)
Anyway, this was my running week:
☑ Tuesday, October 29, 2013 – (15’30″ / mi) 1.95 mi, 30:09 min
(11’06” / mi) 0.5 mi, 05:36 min
(10’26” / mi) 0.5 mi, 05:16 min
(10’56” / mi) 0.5 mi, 05:31 min
☑ Thursday, October 31, 2013 – (12’20″ / mi) 3.06 mi, 37:54 min
☑ Friday, November 1, 2013 – (14’58″ / mi) 1.27 mi, 19:04 min
So. 7.78 miles ran. Still more than last week, but still far from my standards. Worked up the courage to run outside though, finally, and have no further comments about my training, my racing, and my running that are of importance except that the following video will tell you how I feel every time I finished the miles I’ve set for myself – be it during a workout or in a race:
Find me on Nike+ (staciapriscilla) and let’s make every mile count.
Disclaimer: The regimen on this post is never intended as a substitute for personal training. It’s for your entertainment/educational purposes only, and personal accountability in my part. For professional advice, always consult a certified health and fitness trainer.